- Publish Date
- Friday, 9 February 2018, 1:34PM
Becoming a grandparent is a pretty big deal - so it's only natural you'd want to be involved.
But one mother-in-law has just been slammed after voicing her outrage at her daughter-in-law's decision on who to take into the delivery room.
Her son, Steven, and his wife, Julia, are expecting their first child next month.
And the couple have decided to only allow Julia's mother to be in the delivery room when she gives birth.
So the woman wrote to an agony aunt in a desperate bid for help.
She says: "I had what I thought was a good relationship with Julia, but I find myself devastated.
"I was stunned and hurt by the unfairness of the decision and tried to plead with her and my son, but Julia says she "wouldn’t feel comfortable" with me there. I reminded her that I was a nurse for 40 years, so there is nothing I haven't seen.
"I’ve tried to reason with Steven, but he seems to be afraid of angering Julia and will not help."
"I called Julia's parents and asked them to please reason with their daughter, but they brusquely and rather rudely got off the phone. I’ve felt nothing but heartache since learning I would be banned from the delivery room," she continued.
"Steven told me I could wait outside and I would be let in after Julia and the baby are cleaned up and "presentable."
"Meanwhile, Julia’s mother will be able to witness our grandchild coming into the world. It is so unfair."
"I cannot bring myself to speak to Julia. I’m being treated like a second-class grandmother even though I’ve never been anything but supportive and helpful.
"How can I get them to see how unfair and cruel their decision is?"
But the grandmother-to-be's letter did not go down well.
The agony aunty replied saying: "You can’t! You shouldn’t! You are entirely in the wrong!"
"You have been acting badly and that you need to change."
"Your daughter-in-law is giving birth, which is a pretty difficult, painful, and intimate process. She has every right to plan ahead for just how many people she wants to be in the room for that. This is not about you."
"Do not rob this moment of its joy by keeping score and demanding more."
What are your thoughts?