Caroline Cranshaw's Sealed Section: What to do if you're disappointed by his penis size

Publish Date
Friday, 3 November 2017, 9:30AM
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Welcome to Caroline Cranshaw's Sealed Section where she answers your most burning questions.

Warning: The following gets pretty raunchy!

Dear Caroline,

I’ve just starting see this guy, everything is amazing. Except for the size of his penis. It’s really really small. I almost laughed and rolled over when I first saw it. What do I do?

Poor men with small penises! I’m sure it was disappointing for you, but how small are we talking? I always was lucky to have boyfriends that were well endowed and to be honest, when I met a man who wasn’t I would blow him off as I thought the sex wouldn’t be good. I was a firm believer in the saying “you can’t make butter with a toothpick”. The problem was I never actually had sex with the men I thought were too small to find out if that was true.

Fast forward a few years, and I start dating a lovely guy who had pretty small one, maybe 3 inches hard. I liked everything about him, so I decided since I had never actually had sex with a small penis, I might as well try it out. And I was shocked to find that the sex was great! It made me realise that it’s more about the lover than the size of the penis.

Most women don’t orgasm from just penetrative sex and need clitoral stimulation to cum. So, if a man is good with his tongue and fingers and grinds his pelvis into a woman clitoris when they are having sex, she will be happy. The average vagina is 4-5 inches long, so penises much longer tend to bang against our cervixes, causing pain.

Good positions to make the most of a smaller than average penis are placing the woman’s legs on the man’s shoulders during missionary position, from behind doggy style, or, when the woman’s on top, place a pillow under the man’s bum to raise up his pelvis. I wouldn’t discount a small penis; it could end up being the best sex you ever had.

Caroline Cranshaw is a hypnotherapist, life coach and the author of The Smoking Cure. Find out more about her at