This Guy's Proposal Was SO Bad, Then His Girlfriend Says No

Recently on Reddit, a relationship thread saw marrymonay write about her boyfriend’s recent proposal.

“We’ve been together for 3.5 great years”

“We’ve frequently discussed marriage, timelines, and future plans. We live in a home together, have moved across the country together, ect [sic]. He is the person I plan to spend my life with. He knows I don’t like surprises, so I never expected a big proposal or anything.

“But, the way he has gone about it has hurt my feelings.”

"He sat me down with a spreadsheet he made of all the financial benefits of getting married and asked me if I wanted to," marrymonay wrote.

Yes, a spreadsheet.

It kinda gets worse...

"He even broke it down into a dollar amount each month that I'm "worth". We aren't hurting for money, it's not a solution to a problem. Idk [I don't know] what made him think that's how you go about ask someone to marry you."

(Note: her boyfriend is in the military so he's been trained with formulas, numbers and order).

marrymonay was not happy and let the Reddit users know that she said no.

The response was one that "upset him and hurt his feelings," marrymonay wrote, before adding, "But the reality is I am ready, I just don't want to feel like someone is marrying me for financial benefit. I know him and know that he isn't only asking becuase [sic] of that, but I can't shake the feeling that he ruined the whole idea of getting married for me."

"Even if he redoes a proposal I'm afraid I will still feel that way, and that I'll walk down the isle feeling that way. And now he is sad too because I rejected his "proposal".

So marrymonay turned to her friends on Reddit: "Any ideas on how we can remedy this or what I can say to him to make him understand?"

She then added to her post later on: "he thinks that if I wanted to marry him and be with him I would have said yes regardless of the proposal. I can't get him to understand how much his actions hurt my feelings."

Source.