- Publish Date
- Monday, 6 November 2017, 3:27PM
Most couples get divorced because of cheating, fighting or just not being in love with each other anymore.
But now science has chimed in.
Researchers believe they can predict who is most likely going to wind up divorced based on a number of factors, including education level and employment status, to the way you talk about your relationship...
- Getting married in your teens or after age 32.
According to research led by Nicholas Wolfinger, a professor at the University of Utah, getting married in your teenage years put you at a very high risk of divorcing. Further to this, people who marry in their mid 30's are at greater risk of divorce than those marrying in the late 20s and early 30s. Most youthful couples simply do not have the maturity, coping skills, and social support it takes to make marriage work. While the kinds of people who wait till their thirties to get married may be the kinds of people who aren’t predisposed toward doing well in their marriages.
- Having a husband who doesn't work full-time
According to Alexandre Killewald in a 2016 Harvard study, 2.5 percent of couples in which the husband had a full-time job were divorced by the next year. Whereas that figure was 3.3 percent for couples in which the husband didn't have a full-time job. She concluded that the male breadwinner stereotype is still very much alive, and can affect marital stability.
- Not finishing high school
A National Longitudinal Survey of Youth in America found the chance of a marriage ending in divorce was lower for people with more education. Over half of marriages of those who did not complete high school ended in divorce, compared with approximately 30 percent of marriages of college graduates.
- Showing contempt for your partner
University of Washington psychologist, John Gottman, says there are four relationships behaviours which can send a couple straight to divorce...
Contempt: Seeing your partner as beneath you.
Criticism: Turning a behaviour into a statement about your partner's character.
Defensiveness: Playing the victim during difficult situations.
Stonewalling: Blocking off conversation.
- Being overly affectionate as newlyweds
Psychologist Tud Huston conducted a 13 year study of marriages and interestingly found that couples who divorced after seven or more years were 'giddily' affectionate. It would seem that those couples who have a whirlwind start to their romance will most likely not last.
- Withdrawing during conflict
'Withdrawing' from conflicts is a terrible sign. A 2014 study found that couples are less happy together when one partner pressures the other and receives nothing but silence in return - this is known as "demand/withdraw" patterns.
- Describing your relationship in a negative way
How couples talk about their relationship is a dead giveaway to how they actually feel about it.